Post 16

Just today, I found out the reason why a group of friends that I am sort of a part of dislikes a someone I know. Why? Because she's desperate for a guy friend. How so? Because she took the initiative to start a relationship with some fat dude, and because she flirts with about every guy she comes across. Um... so? Let's break this argument down into bite-sized chunks. There are three parts to the proof:

1. She liked a fat guy.

2. She flirts with every guy she comes across.

3. She took the initiative.

Let's start with 2 because I say so.

The dictionary definitions of "flirt" differ slightly in their wording, but the best in this context is:

noun
1. a seductive woman who uses her sex appeal to exploit men [syn: coquette] 
2. playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest 

verb
1. talk or behave amorously, without serious intentions; "The guys always try to chat up the new secretaries"; "My husband never flirts with other women" [syn: chat up] 
2. behave carelessly or indifferently; "Play about with a young girl's affection" [syn: dally] 

Source: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/flirt

The keywords here are:

1. playfully (or without serious intention, if you please)

2. amorously (or anything else related to love)

The question is this: Where do you draw the line for amorously? While we're at it, we can question what is "playfully", but that is an easier matter to define. In my personal experience, that person has never exhibited behaviour anywhere close to amorously, but that could be because I am a blockhead. So, I'll just cross out this point out of personal experience.

Let's go back to point 1. I shall assume that one is lazy to look up at this point, and just restate it: She likes a fat guy. Now, just where does the problem lie with that? ......Yeah, it doesn't exist...... So what if the guy is fat? Or not good-looking, if you want to extend it? Loving people for their appearance is a very... shallow thing to do. A pretty face cannot make up for a flawed character, but a good character can make up for a bad appearance. You can have plastic surgery for your face, but it takes a very long time to have good character. And honestly, that fat guy IS a nice guy... From what I've seen anyway. He's willing to learn, and he's not a bad-tempered or selfish guy. Yeah.

Lastly, there's 3. Which is, in longhand, "She took the initiative to start a relationship with the fat dude." Okay, this is the point that it is the hardest to come to a consensus to. There are two ways you can look at this:

1. Go girl! We are women, hear us roar! (a.k.a. more power to the females i.e. equal rights for females to pursue own happiness, which includes being able to go after people they like)

2. That girl is horrible! She violates social norms of the girl waiting for the guy to get her! (among other questionable areas of such practice)

The problem lies in that I don't know which perspective I really believe in. Both perspectives are valid, as I'm sort of a feminist myself, but I do find it slightly objectionable for a female to take the initiative. Oh, problems, problems.

It's up to you to view the situation, but really, the points against disliking that acquiantance outweigh the points for condemning the person (for me at least), so yeah.

Good food for thought, no?